Confession time: I have been watching "Bachelor". . . and I like it.
Unfortunately, I was stuck in the network of tears in the franchise, excessive
Sincere declaration of love and tacky clothing-
I'm not alone.
I am a relatively new devotee of this cultural phenomenon, which first appeared on a small screen in 2002 and crossed the spin-
Single woman (2003)
, [Bachelor's mat ](2010)
And The Bachelor of Heaven (2014).
After successfully avoiding a franchise for nine years, I was invited to a viewing party by some of the women I had worked with during the May 2011 Ashley Hubert's single season.
After Ashley's engagement with JP Rosenbaum, I was officially hooked on her and watched the self-performance of all 18 "Bachelor's mat" contestants
Ben Flajnik's "Bachelor" season, in tears of white wine ---
Although each series is objectively bad.
Somehow, four years later, I stuck to it, and since then I 've watched every season of Bachelor and single woman ---and live-
Push and recite together.
Most of my peers have love.
Hate relationship with "Bachelor" franchise-
Specifically, we hate that we like it.
The potential information for these shows is terrible.
We are basically told that all women in their 20 s should be desperately looking for men to get married (most of the 30-
Single people are portrayed as a special despair)
In general, women are totally crazy.
Of course, this applies only to white women, as people of color are rarely cast.
However, even knowing all these things, one season after another, the smart, successful women in droves come back to ABC and host Chris Harrison for more things.
In the words of Jack, "Brokeback Mountain", "I just can't leave you.
"So why are we doing this?
Is this just pure masochism or is there something else to play?
The false reality of the "Bachelor" series reveals how we view love, because love is an academic background of a writer and pop culture, obsessed with sociology, I was immediately fascinated by what "single" and "single" said about the way our culture views love and sex.
With the progress of many Americans on these issues, it is still difficult for us to resist a good "retrograde romance ". Slut-shaming?
We saw it on bachelor. " A near-
Obsessed with portraying romantic attachment as a fairy tale?
We saw it on the single woman.
"There's a whole industry built around making weddings the only important day, and we're still collectively embarrassed to talk about sex in good faith, in addition to the romantic partnership of white, straight, we still have a serious lack of representation.
All of this played a role in the narrative of The Bachelor and the single woman.
"It makes us feel a little superior. bad-its-
The good appeal of the "Bachelor" franchise may have to do with morbid curiosity, which prompts people to play with rubber necks on interstate roads.
Watching the contestants of bachelor and single woman cry in the limo to discuss their emerging careers as VIP cocktail waitress, junkyard specialist, sex coach and dental consultant, threatening to do physical harm to people they barely know, which alternately is terrible and fascinating.
We will also be happy with the fact that none of us will go out of their way to impress the romantic outlook.
Tell another woman that you will cut her face off? Nope. Leave your Ph. D.
Plan to move to a small town nationwide?
Even if Ryan Gosling appeared in a limo with a box of two dozen roses on his head and said, "you are that person ". " (
Well, probably for Ryan Gosling. . . )
This is a safe exit for us.
Maybe you had a bad weekend but still feel a little uncomfortable, maybe you had a bad day at work, maybe your roommate upset you, or you just get angry for no reason.
Want a safe way to vent your anger without hurting the person you love?
You have reported the bachelor.
Take a few wells out for a week's snarktimed tweets.
You may irritate your followers, but they can always mute you.
It makes love look simple. . .
If you look at the absurd "journey" for three months, you will inevitably have to buy a little.
Yes, there is still snark, but there are also some of us who like to watch someone "find love "---
Even if we think it's bullshit.
What if finding a life partner is really as easy as jumping around the world by helicopter for 12 weeks?
What if we could control all the circumstances surrounding love and finally be happy?
Love is not 12-
Can "win" the week of white wine and tears--
But imagine it might be satisfactory. . . .
But it also makes us grateful (Oft-Painful)
True "Singles" and "Singles" indicate that trade is the creation of "true love.
"After all, in what world, 25 random girls will fall madly in love with a dopey dude (
A few hours later)?
While it's fun to watch all uber --Tacky, romantic-
The full date on TV reality is sitting in an empty theater with an actual stranger watching your old baby video, or be forced by a stylist to watch upcoming movie clips on the iPad--
Actual date of occurrence on "Bachelor--
Sounds more uncomfortable than anything.
Look, we're happy we're dating.
Screen, in this world, we will never meet a romantic partner on a white horse, nor will we be left standing on a glacier.
Also, if there is any reason to completely abandon the charming prince fantasy like bachelor, just look at the numbers.
Of all the "magic" couples on the franchise, only five are still together ---
One of them was Chris and Whitney, who were engaged only after the parade.
Most of us would rather be brave enough to meet uncomfortable people on bars, friends or Tinder than cut off our peers on national TV, or "win" love and then be-
The details of the entire chaos were filled with tabloids.
So instead of taking the "Bachelor" franchise too seriously and using it as any model of our own behavior, we take away from it what it can give us-
Escape from our daily lives, appreciate the reasons for our true, imperfect relationships, and excuses for drinking on Monday night. . . sans tears.
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