As I wrote last month, Nancy Pelosi knows how to deal with gas tanks like Trump.
She set a firm line.
She stated facts, not guesses;
She set expectations.
She knows what the real motive is for a petrol lighter.
Issues that need constant attention
She also knows one of the signs of the gas light: projection.
Speaking of Trump, Pelosi said: "I always think that whatever the president says to us, he is expressing his irrational feelings.
He's a projector. that's why.
No matter what you are or what he is doing, he will assign these features or behaviors to you.
It's almost for comedy.
If it's not that much potential damage to your career.
At work, your gas light/narcissistic boss will write you are always late on your performance review.
However, you are on time for a mistake.
Your boss is always late.
Your colleague accused you of hacking into their laptop.
However, when he thinks you can't see him, you already see him lurking around your laptop.
Your scammer keeps accusing you of stealing something from her desk.
In a relationship, people who love to talk will constantly accuse you of cheating.
When you are 30 minutes late for work, he will check your phone, answer your questions and even follow you.
You don't have any indication that you are cheating, but your gas lighting/self-narcis partner has been asking questions that you should cheat.
However, like many gas lighters/self-narcis, they are actually cheating (
McNulty and Widman, 2014).
When you fight with a rush/self-narcis about his deception, he will point to you and say that you are accusing him because you are really cheating him.
Gas Light/continue his projection game from narcis
Now use it as a strategy to divert attention.
Why is gaslighters/narcissistic project?
This has partly dispersed their own bad behavior.
Your goal is to let you question your reality and keep you away from it.
By accusing you of doing what he is doing, this deflated/self-narcis makes you try to defend your innocence with a grain of salt.
At the same time, he is doing whatever he wants.
When you try to prove that you are not doing something, he buys some time for himself.
He let you lose.
When you feel that your behavior is somehow, or really has a feature of a gas lighter/stis that protrudes to you, it is called projection recognition (Nielsen, 2017).
When the gas tank/self-narcis is in use, this is a very effective way to manipulate someone.
What do you do when a gas lighter/self-narcis projects their own behavior to you?
First of all, admit to yourself that it can't be true just because the gas lighter/self-narcis is accusing you of your actions.
Do not give this power to gas/from narcis.
Next, do not respond as much as possible to the allegations made by gaslighter/narcis.
A simple "I'm really confused about what you're talking about" or "Oh, really ? "?
Stop many gas tanks.
The reason for pretending to be confused (
And is actually confused)
Did such an excellent job of unarming the gasoline lighter/self narcis?
Because they want to fight.
You're taking them away.
Don't be satisfied with a reaction.
For you, in addition to confusion, boredom, or contradiction with the projection of the gas lighter/self-narcis, you have any reaction, just like adding oxygen to the fire.
Ideally, stay away from the gas tank/self-narcis if you can't completely cut off the connection with him.
Record the behavior of the gas stove.
Explore the procedures for reporting harassment in your workplace.
Consult a lawyer.
Gasoline lighter/self narcis is a professional flying under radar-
They make you miserable, but it's not enough that they violate any of the company's policies.
In some cases, moving to another office or looking for another job is worth it for your physical and mental health.