well-being: opposites attract - projector lens

Scientific research often confirms the obvious or unimportant consideration.
Every once in a while, however, a study appears that contradicts all of our preconceived ideas and reveals the dark side of human behavior.
Here are some of the paradoxes discovered by different social scientists: the Church-
People are more likely to steal newspapers.
Men who hate homosexuality are more likely to be gay.
Conservatives are the biggest porn consumer in the United States.
While we are talking about the paradox, it is also worth considering Console's recent financial controversy and the confusing high fraud rate in the charity sector.
There is an ancient Greek word for this contradictory behavior --
Enantiodromia, roughly translated as "the superabundance of any force inevitably results in the opposite ".
The word, popularized by psychiatrist Carl Jung, is often cited in his work on shadow psychology.
Enantiodromia is the same,and-
The pendulum moves from one extreme position to another.
In this case, the point of suspension is the elusive balance we are all trying to find.
We don't need to work too hard to find examples of the mapping around us.
We can see it in the carnival.
Washing order of diet, recurrence-
The conscious cycle of addiction and our tendency to exchange hedonism (Christmas)
Hard work (Dry January).
This also explains that after a workaholic, there is a high probability of burnout, and there is a risk of burning candles at both ends.
Looking further, you will notice that superiority is usually a inferiority complex disguised;
The most angry people are usually the most sensitive, as the saying goes, always quiet people.
Or consider the high rate of depression among comedians;
The chaotic inner world of organization obsession, and the special tendency of reproductive cells to get sick.
In other cases, the shadow face is obvious among the partners we choose.
Think about the free spirit paired with the control freak;
People with trust problems fall in love with another scammer and emotionally in need of help, who crave the feelings of someone emotionally unavailable.
We can also see this from family dynamics.
We all know that parents who inadvertently let their children back down by following their children's instructions, and those who, despite their better attempts, have cultivated the rebels.
Even the most kind people have a shadow.
I began to notice that the vast majority of compassionate people have marginal anti-social tendencies.
Maybe it's a coping tool to take advantage of their excesses. sensitivity.
Maybe for another reason.
In Goethe's words: "There are many places of light with strong shadows ".
Nevertheless, it is easy for us to forget the meaning of this view.
Jung wrote about "the need for opposition to conflict ".
In other words, we do not know that there is no light of darkness, just as we do not know that there is no good of evil.
Of course, we know that everything has the opposite side, but we forget that these two polarities are inextricably linked.
"Everyone has a shadow," Jung wrote. "the less it is reflected in the conscious life of the individual, the darker and more dense it is ".
The trouble is that we tend to point out rather than point out.
Think about "if you find it, you tend to criticize the traits of others in ourselves, or ask yourself why familiarity breeds contempt.
The shadow side is the core of the author's Byron Katie self.
Method of inquiry called "work.
She explained the process with a piece of lint on the projector lens.
"We think there is a flaw on the screen, and we are trying to change this person and that person, no matter who the next flaw appears," she explained . ".
"But it is futile to try to change the projected image ".
I took the course at Byron Katie and it was a difficult process --
It is instructive, but it has a deep hunch.
This is worth it, though.
It taught me to look for lint on the projector lens, just as it made me develop the habit of thinking about the other side of all extreme emotions and behaviors.
It also taught me to reconsider the ideals I agree.
"We all feel that the reverse of our own Supreme principles must be purely destructive, lethal and evil," he wrote . ".
"We refuse to give it any positive life --force;
So we avoid and fear it ".
When we allow it to reach the darkest place by oppression or oppression, the side of the shadow becomes problematic.
However, it can also be used as a useful force.
Even the recognition and negotiation with the shadow side is sufficient to restore a sense of balance.
When you are comfortable with the extremes of your own mind, you can manage them better.
More importantly, when you feel comfortable with the dark side of humanity, you will be better at accepting the ups and downs
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